Unrealistic needs

I was talking to a friend the other day and he was telling me how he felt that his needs were being trivialised and not seen as important by his partner.

We all know that men like a little "kiss & cuddles", preferably on a regular basis. I would have to say that based on my experience this rates pretty high on the importance scale for a man. On the other side, women seem to prefer the romantic "kiss & cuddles" and the male version is of lesser consequence.

Now when he mentions the fact he feels that his needs are not being met sufficiently, he is quickly put back in his place, even if it's in front of friends, family maybe even strangers (This goes back to my previous post on respect).

Basically, he is being told that his needs are irrelevant, not important and he is made to feel lesser because he had the hide to raise the point in the first place. Once this happens too many times, he will retreat and the communication between the two will start shutting down.

From his perspective, it doesn't matter whether he wines & dines her, meet her needs whether they be emotionally, financially etc she seems to always belittle his needs.

His response from this form emotional abuse, indifference.