An trip away

Well I recently went away with the family to some theme parks (and shopping) and found myself in some deep thought.

It sort of happened like this ......

At the airport this athletic african american guy who I had never met before called me buff. Now I am certainly not fit, quite the opposite so I wasn't sure what I was challenged by the most being told that I was or being told that I was by a guy.

Then a few days later I had a tour guide playfully tap me on the bum with the paperwork he was carrying. Now once again was I having trouble with the tap itself or the fact that he was in fact a guy.

Finally, there was the flight attendant on the way home, lovely guy, just not my type.

So there I was getting noticed by guys more than I have ever been in the past. Were they sensing something that I wasn't aware of ? Was I a candidate to suddenly become gay ?

So off I went and did some self analysis, Was I gay ? Well after reviewing all these feelings and thoughts I did come to a conclusion and it was even more interesting to me than I thought it would be.

YEP ! I do like the ladies and that's where I'm staying. So ok I'm not gay (my wife will be pleased) but what about this yearning to spend time with other males talking about those sensitive, private things that most men say you must be gay to want to talk about ?

Well the jury is still out but at this time I believe that there is a clear distinction that men need to understand. It's quite simple really. Being gay (or straight) is not about your ability, willingness or need to talk to other men about personal things no being straight or gay has nothing to do with that it's just about your sexual preference, that's all.

Remember that women do it all the time, does that make them all lesbians ? Whilst many men would like that to be the case, clearly not.

Sooner men accept that we can be caring and sensitive to other men (especially our sons) and not label them as gay or wooses etc sooner we can start to live a more fulfilling life.

The need and desire to be emotionally close with another human being (whether they be the same sex or not) is not a always a sexual thing, it's a part of being human.